I got the idea for today’s post when I read the text on Nana Yaw’s whatsapp profile picture. The text read ” and if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?”
Now that was indeed a question and the saddest thing about this question is that most people wouldn’t even name themselves in that list.
Nana Yaw is one of my favourite writers. He blogs at the high juku. You can check out his blog for some poems and short stories.
Usually we are thinking about how to show people we love them. How to make them feel we care about them. How many times do you think of how to show yourself love and care?
Let me ask you these questions
- Do you love yourself?
- How are you showing yourself you love and care?
- Are you being kind to yourself?
- Are you being nice to yourself?
One thing you should always remember to do is be nice to yourself. Say nice things to yourself. Talk to yourself like you will talk to someone you love. What makes us or breaks us is what we tell ourselves.
So the first step to self love is to talk nicely to yourself. Read inspirational quotes. Motivate yourself. Have some affirmations you recite everyday to remind yourself you are awesome and motivate you for the day.
It’s not selfish to love yourself. It’s not selfish to care about your happiness and do what makes you happy. The best thing you can do for yourself is to make yourself happy.
It is only when you love yourself that you can expect people to love you too and it is after you learn to love yourself that you can genuinely love others. It’s simple. You can’t give what you don’t have. So if you don’t love yourself, how can you love others?
WAYS TO PRACTISE SELF LOVE AND SELF CARE
Love and appreciate your body
Love your body. Own the way you are. Accept that this is you and your body is the way it is. You are beautiful, just the way you are.
Pamper your body
Visit the spa or take a relaxation bath at home with your favourite playlist. Get enough sleep too. Your body needs it.
Do something nice for yourself
Spoil yourself. Go shopping, spend money on yourself. Do something nice for yourself, something you’ve been putting off for some time. You deserve it.
Go on a date with yourself
- Take a long walk alone with some music or your favourite playlist.
- Go to a nice restaurant, order a good meal and eat by yourself.
- Go to the beach or to the movies to see a movie you like.
- Watch the sunrise or sunset with some beverage.
- There are so many things you can do by yourself to make yourself feel good.
Surround yourself with things you love
Be around people and things you love. Do things that makes you happy. You don’t have to do something you don’t want to do just to please others. It’s okay to say no. Remember, it’s not selfish to love yourself.